Language of Love

As Valentine’s Day draws near, hearts everywhere turn toward thoughts of love.

When I reflected on its meaning, I was reminded of the timeless book The Five Love Languages by Dr. Gary Chapman — a renowned author, speaker, and counselor. In his book, he explains that people give and receive love in five unique ways:

• Words of Affirmation
• Quality Time
• Physical Touch
• Acts of Service
• Receiving Gifts

Take a moment to think about how you express love to others — and how you most feel loved in return.

Dr. Chapman discovered through his counseling that many relationships were restored when couples understood each other’s love language. Marriages grew stronger when both partners recognized how the other preferred to give and receive love — and gave each other room to do so.

This understanding extends beyond marriage. It can strengthen the bond between parents and children, friends, coworkers, roommates, and even those navigating fragile relationships or emotional seasons.

I remember sharing a home with two dear friends years ago. We cared deeply for one another but often misunderstood each other’s actions. Once we learned about the five love languages, everything changed.

One friend expressed love through acts of service — always ready to help when needed. Another gave words of affirmation, using her voice to lift others up. My own love language was quality time — connecting deeply through quiet, unhurried conversations. Recognizing these differences allowed us to appreciate each other more fully. To this day, those friendships remain strong.

The concept also helped me better understand my mother’s love. She faithfully cared for me all her life through acts of service, while what she most longed for were words of affirmation. I only wish I had realized that sooner and told her more often how much I cherished her.

It’s a beautiful gift to be loved by others — but the truest source of love comes from God. He embodies every language of love. His love is constant, complete, and always available to us. Through Him, we learn to love others more genuinely and receive love in the way our hearts need most.

“I have loved you, my people, with an everlasting love.
With unfailing love I have drawn you to myself.”
— Jeremiah 31:3 (NLT)

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